March 31, 2017
All of the tireless planning, cleaning, working, doubt, selling, minimizing, and research has come down to today. Today was my last day of working a planned job. The same job I’ve now done for 30 years. Our life has always been a plan. Every minute of every day we have schedules that are planned either by us, or for us. Even simple things like dinner time, doctor appointments and even times when we think we’re not on a schedule or plan, we plan our vacation and every minute during it. Going forward, however, I will live without plans, for the most part. It’s absolutely liberating, and contrary to what you might have been taught, it absolutely doesn’t mean you stop achieving things. It means you stop letting yourself be limited by plans and let life just happen. Consider this common belief: “You’ll never get anywhere unless you know where you’re going.” This seems to be a common thought of people, and yet it’s obviously not true if you stop to think about it. Try a simple experiment: go outside and walk in a random direction, and feel free to change directions randomly. After 20 minutes, you’ll be somewhere! It’s just that you didn’t know you were going to end up there. That’s our thinking now. We will just have a “general idea” of where we are going or what we are doing. We are giving up routines and plans for spontaneity and uncertainty. For the average young parent (we’ve been there) that sounds terribly chaotic. When our kids were young we had a strict schedule. We believe that is what kids need, and yearn for. They need to know what is expected of them, and what they need to do next. We had pretty rigid schedules. Life was balanced and pretty easy with those schedules and planning. If we deviated from that plan or schedule, it really would get chaotic. So we would quickly get back on schedule. Now that my our girls are grown, we are looking for lots of “general ideas” and “approximately’s”. We don’t know where we’re going but when we get there we’ll have a wonderful time!
Live Simply! Give More! Expect Less!